LGBT+ Guide for Parents

Learn how you can be an ally and make family life more inclusive.

Isaac and Christina from the cover of Just Like Us' LGBT+ Guide for Parents

Be your child’s best ally

Designed for parents, carers and extended family members – whether your child is LGBT+ or not – our LGBT+ Guide for Parents will help you become a better ally.

It answers the most common questions parents ask about LGBT+ topics.

The guide has been produced following consultation with more than 100 parents and LGBT+ young people who shared their experiences with Just Like Us.

LGBT+ Guide for Parents front cover

Praise for the LGBT+ Guide for Parents and Carers

Young people’s stories

Rohan’s story

21, trans and bisexual, he wishes his family had talked more openly about LGBT+ topics.

His mum struggles to get pronouns right sometimes but what matters the most to him is that she is willing to try. “Don’t let there be radio silence,” Rohan says. “This is the guide I wish had existed when I came out to my mum.”

Isaac and Christina from the cover of Just Like Us' LGBT+ Guide for Parents

How every family can help

Top tips for all families

Whether or not you have an LGBT+ child (or don’t know yet!), here are some tips for things you can do to create an inclusive, supportive environment at home.

Every family can teach their children to be allies to the LGBT+ community – imagine the positive change we could make, together.

  • 1

    Talk openly about LGBT+ topics
    Start conversations from a young age, with inclusive books for example, and be vocal about your support for the LGBT+ community. LGBT+ people exist – don’t be afraid to talk about this!

  • 2

    Let your child know you’re an ally
    Talk about how it’s OK to be LGBT+, that it’s accepted in your family, and that you don’t use ‘gay’ as an insult, for example

  • 3
    Don’t assume your child will be straight and cisgender
    There’s no one way to be LGBT+ so keep an open mind and don’t make assumptions. And you should still be an ally even if your child isn’t LGBT+!
  • 4

    Learn about the LGBT+ community
    Podcasts, books, blogs, documentaries…The options are endless! Learn about the wider LGBT+ community too, not just gay men

  • 5

    Encourage your child’s school to be inclusive
    Tell your child’s teachers that you support your child learning about different kinds of families and the diversity of the world around them

How Not To Screw Up Your Kids

“Just Like Us have given us all – parents, educators, neighbours, employers, and the wider community – a clear understanding of what LGBT+ allyship REALLY is, and it’s in our actions not just in the words we use. I am already challenging my own inherited stereotypes of those who identify as LGBT+ through well-informed education, so I can truly embody allyship,” says podcaster Dr Maryhan Munt.

Our LGBT+ Guide for Parents author, Amy Ashenden, chats to Dr Maryhan Munt, host of How Not To Screw Up Your Kids.

Dr Maryhan Munt, host of the podcast How Not To Screw Up Your Kids praises LGBT+ Guide for Parents

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